JUNKYARD TEASER VIDEO – FEBRUARY 19TH SHOW

30 Jan

It’s super, super dark in here….but you can get an idea about the venue and what you’re in for!

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(COVER) COLDPLAY – FIX YOU : Diva Taunia Music / Singing

29 Jan

When you lose something you can’t replace…

“WHY?”

26 Jan

Do you read Rob Portinga’s  Former Fat Dudes Blog?  If not, you should.  :)  Please visit him at www.formerfatdudes.com and bookmark him – you’ll be happy you did. I’m re-blogging one of his most recent entries about the question “Why?”  Ask it, because it’s important.

For all of us – no matter what point in the weight loss surgery journey we’re at – this is probably the most important question we can continually as ourselves to move past our often-times destructive behaviors.  Kudos to Rob for reminding us that the limits us physically, and it is up to us to modify our behaviors – as task that we’ll be most likely working on for life.  I’m just glad to have people like Rob to help support me in that life-long journey.

Originally posted on FormerFatDues.com on January 24, 2012:

I think anyone who has had kids, babysat kids, has had young kids as nieces or nephews, whatever… we all know that kids reach a certain age and they go through the “why stage”. Where it seems like the only word in their vocabulary is “why?”. I don’t need to give examples, you know what I’m talking about. And I think we all get to that point where we break down and answer “because”. “Because it is.” Because I said so”, and so on.

 

Well, I think we all need to revert back to childhood a bit and start asking “why?” a lot more.

If you’re a pre-op, you are going to be getting a ton of information thrown at you as you prepare for bariatric surgery. Please, don’t ever be afraid to ask why. Why can’t I can drink with my meals? Why do I need to focus on protein first? Why do I need to take so many supplements. Ask away! Knowledge is power. The more you know, the more prepared you will be. What other cliches can I throw at you here?

 

I’m serious though. Ask questions… of your doctor, your nurse, your surgeon, your peers. Especially your weight loss surgery peers – most of us never get tired of helping others down the wonderful road we’ve taken ourselves.

 

But asking “why” doesn’t stop there. Last year I took a bit of flack on a forum out there for asking “why”. See, someone had posted a question asking how soon after surgery before they could start drinking wine again. There were the usual answers.. “at least a year”, “what does your surgeon say”, things like that. But I felt there was a key question missing there. “Why?”

 

With everything we put ourselves through in order to prepare for, get through and survive this surgery…. why… why would you want to even consider alcohol in those first few months after surgery? Alcohol has absolutely no nutritional value, it is nothing but liquid calories at best, and an activity that can have much more severe consequences post-op at worst. And I’m not even going to get in to possible addiction issues.

 

Now I’m not going to sit here and tell you not to drink, we’re adults. I’ve drank. But I was about 16 months post-op when I had my first beer and I had been at a pretty stable weight for 5 months at that point. And in the nearly two years since… I probably haven’t had enough to fill up a case yet. So yea… I’m not saying abstain entirely, but c’mon.. during that time when you’re losing… just… why?

And with some of the recent hub-bub going on regarding my doing the 5 Day Pouch Test, I was reminded of this simple word, why, once again.

 

Kaye Baily, the author/founder of 5DPT left a nice comment for me on my most recent posting and she basically (intentionally or not, I don’t know) reiterated my own feelings that it’s not the test itself… but rather why. Why are you deciding to do something like that… something that to many is no better than any number of the crash diets so many of us tried time and time again before surgery.

Just like we all have different reasons for having had surgery in the first place, we can have varying answers to a question like that… and I while I have my opinions… like the above one about drinking after surgery…  and even these answers are not always absolutes. Given the popularity of that funnel video one would think I’m the king of not drinking after meals, but I’ll be honest here – there have been times where I break the 30-minute rule.

 

Shocking, right? But for me it’s not about the what, it’s back to the why. Simply put, I was thirsty. I made a conscious decision, knowing I would likely have to be extra cautious of impending hunger because of that decision to take a drink of water. I wanted to take a drink, I was a aware of the why behind it, and can live with that decisions – no regrets. That’s not to say asking “why” gives you a free pass to breaking the rules, but I think for many of us, being more aware of not just what we do, but why, it keeps us so much more in the game than we ever were before.

 

So yea, while I have to say my answers are generally pretty damn good ones, I also can’t forget that they’re not the only ones. And what “works” for me… may not work for you. But to never ask the question, to never look at the why, is to continue to blindly stumble through things, never learning to make better decisions.

 

 

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I Fall In Love Too Easily

26 Jan

I fall in love too easily, I fall in love too fast
I fall in love too terribly hard, for love to ever last
My heart should be well schooled, ’cause I’ve been fooled in the past…
And still I fall in love too easily, I fall in love too fast

I fall in love too easily, I fall in love too fast
I fall in love too terribly hard, for love to ever last
My heart should be well schooled, ’cause I’ve been fooled in the past…
And still I fall in love too easily, I fall in love too fast

NEW MAILING LIST GIVEAWAY!

22 Jan

35 Servings in this bag!

I’m in the process of moving my mailing list over to MailChimp, but I need your help!  My current newsletter mailing list is being held hostage, so I have to rebuild from the beginning.  It’s easy to do, and you could potentially win some pretty awesome protein swag:  a ginormous bag of Orange Cream Flavored Protein power from Bariatric Advantage!

Here’s how it works:

1.  Go to this link and join my mailing list: http://divataunia.us4.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=9862b4f23aae28cf2c823531e&id=4285239cd8

2.  Your name will then be entered into a raffle to win the prize – shipped directly to you with lots of love from me.   Raffle drawing will be on Friday,  January 27th, 2012 and I’ll announce the winner in the newsletter and on Facebook and here on the blog.

Easy, right?

I send one monthly newsletter, and it’s jam-packed with news, performance info, secret free giveaways and promotions, and features and news about our community.  I’d love for you to join so we can keep in touch!   :)

More info about the prize:

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Diva Taunia Project – WEIGH IN UPDATE! 1.21.12

21 Jan

Obesity Sensitivity: What? How? Who? YOU?

9 Jan

Through many recent conversations with both obese patients and health professionals, I’m finding more and more that discrimination and weight prejudice is still socially acceptable within the medical community, not just in social circles and settings.  I’ve always felt incredibly lucky that my own doctor is so amazing when dealing with weight-related topics and discussions, but I think my luck is rare.

More often that not, it seems that our health care professionals are not getting the sensitivity training that they need to deal with obese patients and the bias and discrimination that patients suffering from obesity face on a daily basis.  I’ve heard all too often stories about doctors and health care professionals making derogatory comments to obese patients, even implying that their obesity is shameful.

It still boggles my mind that amount of discrimination that obese patients face despite the fact that it’s been classified as a disease. I am in the process of researching and collecting stories, suggestions, comments, and important information that could potentially be useful not only to health care professionals, but to obese patients advocating for their own health care.  I would love for you to leave your thoughts in the comment section below, or if you prefer to remain anonymous, please email me directly at info@divataunia.com and put “anonymous comment” in the subject line so that I know to keep your information private.

Also, why not take this brief online survey from Harvard University’s Project Implicit?

https://implicit.harvard.edu/implicit/Study;jsessionid=DE7E9176D3D103A9BFB8614E2B351DC6.atomistic-new?tid=0

Through this brief visual survey, you can access your own personal views and reactions about weight bias that may exist outside of your conscious awareness or control. I was really surprised that even with my dedication towards obesity awareness and sensitivity training, along with my own personal history with obesity, I was ranked with a moderate preference towards thin people. Surprising, and upsetting, but eye-opening about how deeply our bias as a culture is.

I have to wonder:  if I exhibit these kinds of preferences, what about my health care professionals who haven’t fought their own battle with obesity?  And what could I potentially be doing to perpetuate those stereotypes and biases?  What type of conversations do I have / not have?  What type of language do I use when referencing my own weight and struggles?  How can I personally help teach my health care professionals how to treat me in the health care process?

Would be curious to hear your stories, suggestions, and results from the survey above.  Many thanks!

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Do You Hear What I Hear?

23 Dec

One of my favorite holiday songs/albums of all time: Vanessa Williams’ Star Bright, and I’m not ashamed to admit it. :)

Happy Holidays to you and yours. Much Love! xoxo

Tread carefully…

16 Dec

Today I received the latest newsletter from The Obesity Action Coalition.  I think they’re doing really wonderful things to help advocate for the obese and bring awareness about weight bias and discrimination.  Whenever I can, I try to help support the cause and lend my voice.  Today’s request brought on some mixed feelings and emotions for me, and a need to shift the focus slightly (my own personal agenda after reading more):

Offensive Stock Photo Images – Read OAC Article Here
Summary:

Photo: istockcredit.com

According to the Yale Rudd Center for Food Policy and Obesity, “72% of photographs paired with online news stories about obesity are stigmatizing toward individuals affected by obesity.

News photographs and videos tend to portray individuals as headless (i.e. only from the shoulders down), from unflattering angles and engaging in stereotypical behaviors (eating unhealthy foods or engaging in sedentary behavior).”

For this “Bias Busters” issue, we want you to encourage the online stock photography Web sitesiStockphoto.com, Getty Images and Bigstock to remove these images and others from their Web sites as the images degrade and dehumanize individuals affected by obesity.

I read the article and my immediate reaction was to start typing away and sending my emails to these stock photo companies.  For me, it’s always difficult to find a balance between reacting logically and thoughtfully, and reacting emotionally when dealing with sensitive weight-related topics.  As someone who faced stigma and bias for most of  her adult life, that balance can be difficult to achieve at times.

While I advocate for obesity issues and against weight bias, I also know that obesity is an epidemic in this country.  While these images often times reflect poor taste in publications and websites, they also represent a large portion of our population and culture as a whole.  Obesity has such a variety of factors that contribute to the disease, but  poor eating choices and sedentary lifestyles also contribute.  Does obesity run in my family genetics?  Yes.  As a morbidly obese woman, did I make poor food and lifestyle choices that contributed to my declining health?  Yes.

The only hesitation I have is that while I absolutely agree that these images are almost always used in what could be considered a stigmatizing way, they also represent culturally what’s going on with us a whole, and I don’t think it would be wise to try and pretend otherwise.  I went to each of the sites and did an image search for obesity:

istockphoto:  http://www.istockphoto.com/search/text/obesity/source/basic#1383b581
(admittedly the least offensive collection of the bunch)

BigStock Photos: http://www.bigstockphoto.com/search/obesity/

Getty Images:  http://www.istockphoto.com/search/text/obesity/source/basic#1383b581
(the MOST offensive of the bunch)

For the most part, I didn’t immediately find many “highly offensive” images at first glance, but I have to wonder how much of that is because I’ve been slightly desensitized?  There were quite a few sexualized photos, and also some blatant “fat people are gluttonous slobs!” photos.  The rest, just are.  I don’t want these sites to wipe out a total database of obesity and obesity-related issues, but I also don’t agree with sexualizing obesity and/or glamorizing bias and discriminatory “jokes.”  I also find it particularly heart-wrenching that children are represented in gluttonous situations.  To me, that was the most offensive of all the photos.

Photo: Getty Images

Just one example of many – childhood obesity.

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Obesity is complex.  Genetics, environment, but also personal responsibility, it all factors in. But weight bias and discrimination is not acceptable.   I think what stings the most when I see pictures like this is that there was a time when that was me.   I would be gluttonous at times.  I made poor food and lifestyle choices that no doubt contributed towards my declining health both as a child and adult.   For me, it’s a very tricky line to tread because I do think we as a society need to be truthful about our behaviors and choices.  And some of those photos?  They represent those choices and our culture.  Is it pretty?  No.  But some are real, if we’re going to be honest.   I don’t think we should pretend that those behaviors don’t exist, because they do.  But I also think that they can be represented in a way that’s honest AND non-discriminatory.  So here’s where I personally chose to voice my concerns to each of these companies.   Wherever you fall on the “offended” scale, please be sure to use your voice.  It’s our most powerful tool in the fight against bias.

Dear [Company Name],

I was recently contacted by the Obesity Action Coalition regarding offensive obesity images in your gallery.  While I do believe that there should be a fair and equal representation of different types of people that make up the fabric of our society, I find some of your images highly offensive.

As someone who has struggled most of her adult life with morbid obesity, I take issue with the photos  that contain both sexualized images and blatant discriminatory bias.  Obesity is a disease that has dramatically increased in the past 20 years, and nearly one-third of our population suffers with obesity today.

Images that stigmatize individuals suffering with this disease do nothing but perpetuate hurtful stereotypes.  And worse, imposing those hurtful biases on children (as you’ve represented in some of your photos) is wrong.  When I search for the term “obesity” and come across photos that are clearly ridiculing children suffering with obesity, it breaks my heart.

Additionally, allowing images that sexualize obesity only serves to create more hits for the fetish-interested.  The fact that these sexualized images are included on the same page and results as photos of children is incredibly inappropriate and irresponsible.

With one-third of our country classified as obese, we surely all must know someone suffering with their weight and health.  If these images were to represent someone you loved and cared about, would that make a difference?  Nameless, faceless photo such as the ones represented in your search results represent people YOU know and love.

I would like to request that you please consider removing the offensive photos tagged under obesity.  At the very least, please at least remove the children that are represented in such a damaging and harmful way.

Disney thinks your fat kid is funny.

14 Dec

Full disclosure:  I hate Disney.  I know I’m in the minority on this one, but I do.  I have always hated the unrealistic and completely skewed body image issues that they send to young girls and boys; every heroine in every movie is a tiny-waisted, doe-eyed, pristine-skinned and flawless waif that is a highly unobtainable  physical ideal.  The message is loud and clear:  you get loved if you’re tiny and gorgeous.  Otherwise, you’re the evil stepsister, the ogre witch, or a vapid inanimate object.  Disney has always won the prize in my book for unrealistic body image ideals.

Last weekend while my niece was here, she flipped on the TV to watch a program called “Ant Farm,” and I was completely outraged at what I saw:  blatant weight bias and discrimination in CHILDREN.

Quick summary:  Kid A is the skinny, wise-cracking star of the show.  Kid B is the pudgy, disgruntled smarty pants.  Kid A needs Kid B’s help.  Kid B, clearly busy being angry and fat, asks Kid A WHY he should help him?  Kid A holds out a ham hock.  I swear to you:

Visual at 00:24

The entire time, Kid A is holding out the ham hock, kid B – not even using his hands because they’re busy typing away on a computer – keeps chomping away at the food while he’s working.

Besides being offensive because it’s just not funny, I am horrified that this is the kind of message that Disney is sending to kids.  ”Fat people are funny!  It’s ok to laugh at fat people!  Just like an animal, feed them food and they’ll do your bidding!”

I had to launch into a lengthy speech with my niece about this.  Fortunately, she’s a very bright and mature young lady who loves her Auntie very much.  When I talk about this, she can easily attach herself to what I’m saying because she grew up with a morbidly obese aunt whom she adored.  She gets it, and I’m thankful for that.  I’m thankful that she too doesn’t think it’s funny.

Disney wants to pass itself off as this beacon of purity and virtue, and I that’s exactly why I detest them.  While I’m not well versed in Disney programming, I’d be willing to bet that this type of message is pretty standard for them.  I’ve seen enough to know that any of the main characters are flippant and insolent little brats that run the show, with the joke on anyone who doesn’t fit the perfect image mold.

What’s more upsetting is that I doubt that adults are sitting down with kids explaining why this type of bias and stereotyping is wrong.  Now clearly, I attach my emotions to this weight-bias topic in particular, but I know how a lot of parenting goes:  plop the kid down in front of the television and get some adult alone-time.   The problem is?  Disney is quite possibly the worst babysitter ever, filling your kid’s head with unrealistic expectations of body image, rambunctious behavior, and now, weight bias.

Instead of creating programming that is inclusive of everyone, erasing popularity contests and ideals based on image, Disney perpetuates it.   How do we change a social mindset when its being shoved down their throats – literally – at such a young age?    Be part of the solution, that’s how. Use your voice, and tell Disney exactly what you think about their use of weight bias and discrimination in their programming for kids:

Rich Ross,
President and Director of The Disney Channel
500 S. Buena Vista Street
Burbank, CA 91521
Email: rich.ross@disney.com

Write Disney CEO, Robert Iger!
Robert A. Iger,
President and CEO of the Walt Disney Company
500 S. Buena Vista Street
Burbank, CA 91521
Email: robert.a.iger@disney.com

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